Religion

http://badgirlbeingbad.blogspot.com/

As a response to your blog on religion, i was also christened church of England when i was a baby- and have since had a Christian blessing for my own daughter, but despite this i am not particularly religious. I guess i did it for the sake of 'Tradition' (whatever that means). I feel like i want my daughter to go to church and have the same experiences that i have- but i don't really know what i believe in these days. My experiences of religion in recent years have been full of hypocrisy and people using religion as an excuse for hate and badness against others. Some of the things i learnt as a child about unconditional love and not judging others, seems to be forgotten by 'Christians' who condem you for your choices. The way i see it we all have to live and learn, and if there is a god, then one day i will answer to him for my actions!

http://jessiehuds.blogspot.com/2007/03/in-response-to-another-blog-on.html

I would like to respond to a question by Jess Kate which came out of an earlier blog i wrote on Shoplifting. she asks: However can it still be justified to the parent that cant afford to look after one baby but continues to get pregnant? My answer would be no. I fully understand the physical, emotional and financial pressures a woman faces trying to bring up a child alone- sometimes it's equally hard with a partner. i also understand that accidents happen and that you can make the mistake of falling pregnant at the wrong time, however, once you have experienced how hard it can be, why make another child suffer. i have a child, i was young when i had her and things ain't all been Rosy- for this reason i made the decision to wait until i was financially secure and working after i graduate before having any more children. Having another child knowing you will have to steal to feed them and keep them in nappies is wrong- you shouldn't use your children as an excuse. i have used my situation to motivate myself and achieve better things- it ain't hard to make a better life for yourself if you try.

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As a response to pearlsofwisdom, 'Rudeness' i would like to say that i totally agree. There are a few poeple in lectures who act as though we are still in school- the difference is that now we are paying 3grand a year for the time we spend here. I aint got that kind of cash to waste and i dont know many people who have- i would like to hear what is being said!!!

Bad cinema

I thought that kids was the perfect choice for our bad cinema session, since watching i have been trying to get my brother and all his friends to watch it. The message i got from the film was about the naivety of youth. young people do believe the stupid myths and gossip they hear about sex, relationships and life in general. By pure luck i managed to escape most of the scenarios played out in the film, but as a mother, sister and friend it was a real eye opener! young people need to have access to the facts about things like aids- without the stigma which seems to be attached to visiting the clinic. I hope that my daughter will be able to come to me in the future and ask questions- without fear of punishment. Better education and awareness on sexual health issues and general life skills would keep millions more people well and alive each year.

I work as a youth worker and i am regularly amazed by some of the things young people believe! for most of them catching an STD or getting pregnant is a laugh... you can take a course of anti- biotic to clear up any infection, get an abortion or keep the baby and get a free house and benefit! it really is no big thing to them... when i ask them about aids the don't see it as a threat- its seen as an African or gay problem. these attitudes need to be addressed. The parents of most of these young people are to ignorant, to embarrassed or to busy to allow their kids to ask questions. Most young people are scared to talk to their parents as they fear punishment or judgement- so they turn to their peers who are just as misguided as they are.... Education is the key!

The durex website has loads of information on sarer sex- and loads of ideas for great sex too!!!
http://www.durex.com/cm/safe_sex.asp?intMenuOpen=10

2 comments made on the 'prostitution' entry:
leewv10 said...
LOL! All geeza's aint like how Miss Woodstock is making out. So its unfair to tar all man with the same brush love! ;-)
26 February 2007 22:31
Jade said...
all men get wound easy- jus depends on how much skill the girl has. thats my opinion any way. maybe u are one of the few men who's brain aint in thier trousers! lol!
22 March 2007 18:03

Something we all do!

The lizard man is an extreme example of body modification...whether it be achieve true beauty or just for the attention and fame this man has dramatically altered his body in a series of irreversible ways....

Although many forms of body modification don't tickle my fancy- changing the way we look is something we all do. Whatever the reason we all seek to be a more beautiful version of ourselves- from the style of our hair, make up, piercings, tattoos- even dieting, we all modify the way we look. Variety is he spice of life, individuality and wanting to be unique is what makes society an interesting place to be...We are bought up with generalised views of what beauty is which change over time- definitions of acceptable 'Beauty' change from generation to generation, but, beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder, I ask the question what is true beauty- IS THERE A UNIVERSAL ANSWER??http://www.bod-mod.com/All these people see their modifications as making them beautiful in some way.... How do you see them and why do you see them that way? There is no real right or wrong answer, every one of us has a different outlook....

one night stands are a good idea?????

http://bloggers-better-know.blogspot.com/ As a response to LEEWV10 (one night stands), do you really think that having sex with random strangers is a good idea? yes it will satisfy a physical need, but it would be a much better experience if the person knew what buttons to press- further more one night stands are usually the result of large amounts of alcohol, meaning you often wouldn't even remember- whats the point? i do agree that you shouldn't dirty your own door step though!

I would just like to point out that condoms are not a hundred percent effective and that the safest thing would be to know the person your sleeping with- and what they could be giving you apart from pleasure!!!

17-04-2007
As a resposes to Leewv10's come back to this comment, i would like to say 'FAIR POINT!', WHATEVER FLOATS YOUR BOAT, i agree that using condoms does give you some protection and that this is better than nothing, while your young it's fun to experiment. As long as we consider- even for a split second- the future consiquences. As to your question, MIND YOUR BUSINESS! Discretion is a girls best friend!

Bandits and out laws

For me one of the most lovable rouges there has ever been is Tupac Shakur. His music could be controversial, violent, vicious and use some of the most offensive and derogatory language going, but at the same time he was in touch with a gentler side of himself, the loving partner/ brother and son. He wrote some of the most moving music, and some of the most inspiring poetry i have ever listened to. Dispite his portrayal of the 'Bad boy', gang member persona, every now and then this would slip and the human side of him would emerge. He reminded us that he was one of us, that he felt the same pain and faced the same struggle. This is the art of a lovable rouge- we don't see the bad, we fall in love with the good.

Infidelity

Infidelity is a very common thing, so common that is almost an acceptable behavior in our society now- unless, it affects us directly, or those who we are close to. That is not to say it is a 'good', behavior- just that we all know and accept that some people cheat.My perception of what makes infidelity attractive is all about the thrill of the chase and secrecy. Its exciting because you are deceiving your partner and getting away with it, its something new and different, you can take on a new persona- try things your to embarrassed to confront your partner with.In most relationships your partner is the one person you can be truly honest with, you can be the real you. I believe that most of us have separate public personalities which conform to some extent to what is expected of us by society. With our partners we can just be. If this is not the case and we don't feel that it is acceptable to reveal our true selves to our partners the infidelity could be a way to get around this and feel a sense of freedom.But the same things that make infidelity attractive also mean that these new relationships (if you can call them that) are often short lived, because the novelty which drew you in to start with soon wears off, either that or your partner finds out or is close to finding out which which either shocks you back to reality or sucks the fun right out.My definition of infidelity is based around 'sex', the phrase 'you can look, but don't touch' is important. At some point we all find other people attractive, that's not wrong. What is wrong is actively pursuing another person with the intent to cheat. A little bit of flirting is ok, its when you intend to take it beyond flirting- because eventually you will succeed and cheat.In order to cheat you have to betray your partner, you have to break their trust and expectations of you- if your in a relationship where your partner knows and expects you to cheat I don't think its cheating- it can only be infidelity if you go against the wishes and expectations of your partner. At the end of the day if your in a committed relationship there is a mutual understanding that you will be monogamous- unless you have both clearly stated otherwise, so if you break this you are betraying your partner. IN ALL HONESTY THOUGH- IT'S AN APPEALING CONCEPT, SOMETHING EXCITING- DEVIOUS, HAVING YOUR CAKE AND EATING IT TOO, the only down side is getting caught and lets face it- you enevitably will (usually sooner, rather than later).

http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/tweet/oopsohmy.html

Here are the song words to Tweet 'oops oh my'- for any one in doubt that she is reffering to pleasuring herself- this should clear things up!

http://www.starpulse.com/Music/Tweet/Videos/836056/

And here is the music video! it comes on in the central window AFTER THE BOUNTY ADVERT- SO KEEP WATCHING! Happy veiwing! (p.s its not to explicit- don't worry)

Masturbation!!!!

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Prostitution

Is it prostitution to take money from someone who is expecting sex- then not supply it?
I would see it as being gynal (damn untrustworthy) and theft- but not prostitution, for the simple fact that you did not actually sleep with them. It is not exchanging money for sex- its exchanging the desire and expectation for sex for money- which if you can get away with it from time to time- good for you!

Is it socially acceptable?
through the decades there have been many women who have earned a living- a good living at that- through the seduction of men and playing on thier often obvious desires! The fact that it is done so continuously and successfully suggests that it is socially acceptable- as women continue to get away with it (MEN CONTINUE TO ALLOW THEMSELVES TO BE SUCKERED)
in reality, we may not want to admit it- but it is socially acceptable behaviour, particuarly from women. It is more than common for women every where to accept drinks off a man who offers and then make a sharpe exit, leaving him upset 'cause he thought he was gonna get some! To any men who have been in that position- i say it surves you right. It should take more than a few drinks to get the girl in bed!
This situation usually ends up in court with the women claiming to have been raped and the man believing himself to be innocent- ALL THROUGH MIXED MESSAGES AND MISLEADING COMMUNICATION i.e. flirting and leading the man on is seen as you telling him you want sex even if thats not really your intention. Its always a good idea to think twice about the signals you send out- both intentional and unintensional!!
I THINK ON A WHOLE IT IS WRONG TO LEAD MEN ON IN THIS WAY- but if you can- you will, that's life! Accepting more than one drink from a man and not making the fact that you did not intend to sleep with him clear is mean- even cruel, but it does not make you a prostitute. I think that if men reacted more ratiaonally in these situations, there would be much less dissappiontment! BUT LETS FACE IT LADIES- WE ALL KNOW WHAT THIER AFTER: ACCEPTING MORE THAN ONE DRINK MEANS THEY WILL DRAW A CONCLUSION (usually that your gagging for it) SO MAKE SURE ITS THE RIGHT ONE.

Shoplifting

Is shoplifting any different from any other kind of theft?
This all depends- is your motive Need or Greed? To me Steeling nappies for your baby when your desperately broke (for reasons outside of your control) from a faceless super market chain who is morally acceptable, on the other hand if you stole nappies because you spent your last fiver on fags- that aint acceptable! I think shoplifting is different because super markets expect that a certain percentage of thier stock will leave the store unpaid for- they take this fact into thier costs and profit margins, shoplifting is further justified by NEED for the items taken. Although the same principal could be applied to mugging a granny (nicking her pension to pay your rent so that you and your family don't get evicted) any situation where a person is physically or emotionally hurt, to me, is wrong. Shoplifting hurts faceless companies- not little old grannies!

Why do people who can afford things shoplift them intead?
REBELLION- THE THRILL- EXCITEMENT- BEING TIGHT!!!!!!!!! Just because you can pay for something doesn't mean you will! I must confess that during my early years at secondary school- so immorally, i often had the cash to pay for items but didn't. I did it purely for the buzz- often taking things i didn't even want, never mind need.

Smoking

An interesting point that was raised on this issue, was that, although i have never put a fag to my lips with the intention to smoke it- i have smoked! Passive smoking is not one of my major concerns, but when it comes down to it- it should be. but then again there are plenty of things that individuals choose to do for recreation which end up impacting my life, infact there is an almost endless list of things i SHOULD be concerned about-There are people who drink and drive, food companies pumping uneccessary chemicals into my food, global warming! We all do things which contribute to negative concequences to those around us (driving to the corner shop round the corner= pollution=global warming). It's easy to get on your soap box and preach to other people, but sometimes i feel that moral panics end up restricting the freedom of choice of the individual. It will be nice to take my daughter out without her breathing in large amounts of smoke- Don't get me wrong, but as with most things my stand on smoking is this... What you do in your home (or allow to be done in your home) is your business. i have a lot of friends and relatives who smoke and to be honest- i'm glad they do half the time! there are a lot of people who wouldn't be much fun if they didn't have a stress relieving fag, or a stop the nerves fag, if that's your way of dealing with things then so be it. As long as people are informed of the concequences of thier actions, i think they should have the right to decide whether it is the right thing for them.

'Bad field trip'

As a chocoholic i would suggest that any activity which incorporates large amounts of chocolate is the obvious choice- but in all honesty, i'm game to go any where! Any excuse to swap a lecture for a bit of fun sounds good to me. I'm loving this module!