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the above blog gave me some food for thought! it discussed the way that infidelity is thought of as 'normal' in some relationships- but in this context maybe we shouldn't class it as infidelity...if both partners are aware of the situation and agree to this being a part of their relationship then to me it cant be infidelity...to me infidelity is when one partner seeks out a sexual partner or relationship outside of the one their already in- they lie, cheat and deceive the original partner so that they can have their cake and eat it to! this act is wrong because the other partner knows nothing of whats going on and will inevitably be hurt when it comes out.
In response to high rates of infidelity in the west, i would say that there is still a taboo in this country about divorce and leaving your wife/ husband and kids- there is a stigma attached which makes people turn to infidelity as a form of escape- while they maintain a 'wholesome' image and keep up with the Jones'.
in some communities it is a social norm for one partner (usually the man) to take more than one partner- in this case there would be no need for infidelity as it would be acceptable to form new relationships without breaking off existing ones when you get bored!
Also i would point out that in the west there is no strict penalty for being unfaithful- yes you lose face in some peoples eye's and risk losing your original partner- but if your not happy with this person any way- whats stopping you. Do you face a fine? Do you face prison? Will you be stoned? Will you face any form of legal penalty- NO! ITS LEGAL TO HAVE AN AFFAIR, AND OFTEN THE CONSEQUENCES OF AN AFFAIR ARE EASY FOR THE PERSON TO LIVE WITH- SIMPLY PEOPLE DO IT BECAUSE THEY CAN!
the above blog gave me some food for thought! it discussed the way that infidelity is thought of as 'normal' in some relationships- but in this context maybe we shouldn't class it as infidelity...if both partners are aware of the situation and agree to this being a part of their relationship then to me it cant be infidelity...to me infidelity is when one partner seeks out a sexual partner or relationship outside of the one their already in- they lie, cheat and deceive the original partner so that they can have their cake and eat it to! this act is wrong because the other partner knows nothing of whats going on and will inevitably be hurt when it comes out.
In response to high rates of infidelity in the west, i would say that there is still a taboo in this country about divorce and leaving your wife/ husband and kids- there is a stigma attached which makes people turn to infidelity as a form of escape- while they maintain a 'wholesome' image and keep up with the Jones'.
in some communities it is a social norm for one partner (usually the man) to take more than one partner- in this case there would be no need for infidelity as it would be acceptable to form new relationships without breaking off existing ones when you get bored!
Also i would point out that in the west there is no strict penalty for being unfaithful- yes you lose face in some peoples eye's and risk losing your original partner- but if your not happy with this person any way- whats stopping you. Do you face a fine? Do you face prison? Will you be stoned? Will you face any form of legal penalty- NO! ITS LEGAL TO HAVE AN AFFAIR, AND OFTEN THE CONSEQUENCES OF AN AFFAIR ARE EASY FOR THE PERSON TO LIVE WITH- SIMPLY PEOPLE DO IT BECAUSE THEY CAN!
Don't know if any of you have watched this show but it was definitely food for thought for me...here's a link to the home page for 'BIG LOVE' a drama series about Mormon polygamists...
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