Infidelity

Infidelity is a very common thing, so common that is almost an acceptable behavior in our society now- unless, it affects us directly, or those who we are close to. That is not to say it is a 'good', behavior- just that we all know and accept that some people cheat.My perception of what makes infidelity attractive is all about the thrill of the chase and secrecy. Its exciting because you are deceiving your partner and getting away with it, its something new and different, you can take on a new persona- try things your to embarrassed to confront your partner with.In most relationships your partner is the one person you can be truly honest with, you can be the real you. I believe that most of us have separate public personalities which conform to some extent to what is expected of us by society. With our partners we can just be. If this is not the case and we don't feel that it is acceptable to reveal our true selves to our partners the infidelity could be a way to get around this and feel a sense of freedom.But the same things that make infidelity attractive also mean that these new relationships (if you can call them that) are often short lived, because the novelty which drew you in to start with soon wears off, either that or your partner finds out or is close to finding out which which either shocks you back to reality or sucks the fun right out.My definition of infidelity is based around 'sex', the phrase 'you can look, but don't touch' is important. At some point we all find other people attractive, that's not wrong. What is wrong is actively pursuing another person with the intent to cheat. A little bit of flirting is ok, its when you intend to take it beyond flirting- because eventually you will succeed and cheat.In order to cheat you have to betray your partner, you have to break their trust and expectations of you- if your in a relationship where your partner knows and expects you to cheat I don't think its cheating- it can only be infidelity if you go against the wishes and expectations of your partner. At the end of the day if your in a committed relationship there is a mutual understanding that you will be monogamous- unless you have both clearly stated otherwise, so if you break this you are betraying your partner. IN ALL HONESTY THOUGH- IT'S AN APPEALING CONCEPT, SOMETHING EXCITING- DEVIOUS, HAVING YOUR CAKE AND EATING IT TOO, the only down side is getting caught and lets face it- you enevitably will (usually sooner, rather than later).

http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/tweet/oopsohmy.html

Here are the song words to Tweet 'oops oh my'- for any one in doubt that she is reffering to pleasuring herself- this should clear things up!

http://www.starpulse.com/Music/Tweet/Videos/836056/

And here is the music video! it comes on in the central window AFTER THE BOUNTY ADVERT- SO KEEP WATCHING! Happy veiwing! (p.s its not to explicit- don't worry)

Masturbation!!!!

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Prostitution

Is it prostitution to take money from someone who is expecting sex- then not supply it?
I would see it as being gynal (damn untrustworthy) and theft- but not prostitution, for the simple fact that you did not actually sleep with them. It is not exchanging money for sex- its exchanging the desire and expectation for sex for money- which if you can get away with it from time to time- good for you!

Is it socially acceptable?
through the decades there have been many women who have earned a living- a good living at that- through the seduction of men and playing on thier often obvious desires! The fact that it is done so continuously and successfully suggests that it is socially acceptable- as women continue to get away with it (MEN CONTINUE TO ALLOW THEMSELVES TO BE SUCKERED)
in reality, we may not want to admit it- but it is socially acceptable behaviour, particuarly from women. It is more than common for women every where to accept drinks off a man who offers and then make a sharpe exit, leaving him upset 'cause he thought he was gonna get some! To any men who have been in that position- i say it surves you right. It should take more than a few drinks to get the girl in bed!
This situation usually ends up in court with the women claiming to have been raped and the man believing himself to be innocent- ALL THROUGH MIXED MESSAGES AND MISLEADING COMMUNICATION i.e. flirting and leading the man on is seen as you telling him you want sex even if thats not really your intention. Its always a good idea to think twice about the signals you send out- both intentional and unintensional!!
I THINK ON A WHOLE IT IS WRONG TO LEAD MEN ON IN THIS WAY- but if you can- you will, that's life! Accepting more than one drink from a man and not making the fact that you did not intend to sleep with him clear is mean- even cruel, but it does not make you a prostitute. I think that if men reacted more ratiaonally in these situations, there would be much less dissappiontment! BUT LETS FACE IT LADIES- WE ALL KNOW WHAT THIER AFTER: ACCEPTING MORE THAN ONE DRINK MEANS THEY WILL DRAW A CONCLUSION (usually that your gagging for it) SO MAKE SURE ITS THE RIGHT ONE.

Shoplifting

Is shoplifting any different from any other kind of theft?
This all depends- is your motive Need or Greed? To me Steeling nappies for your baby when your desperately broke (for reasons outside of your control) from a faceless super market chain who is morally acceptable, on the other hand if you stole nappies because you spent your last fiver on fags- that aint acceptable! I think shoplifting is different because super markets expect that a certain percentage of thier stock will leave the store unpaid for- they take this fact into thier costs and profit margins, shoplifting is further justified by NEED for the items taken. Although the same principal could be applied to mugging a granny (nicking her pension to pay your rent so that you and your family don't get evicted) any situation where a person is physically or emotionally hurt, to me, is wrong. Shoplifting hurts faceless companies- not little old grannies!

Why do people who can afford things shoplift them intead?
REBELLION- THE THRILL- EXCITEMENT- BEING TIGHT!!!!!!!!! Just because you can pay for something doesn't mean you will! I must confess that during my early years at secondary school- so immorally, i often had the cash to pay for items but didn't. I did it purely for the buzz- often taking things i didn't even want, never mind need.

Smoking

An interesting point that was raised on this issue, was that, although i have never put a fag to my lips with the intention to smoke it- i have smoked! Passive smoking is not one of my major concerns, but when it comes down to it- it should be. but then again there are plenty of things that individuals choose to do for recreation which end up impacting my life, infact there is an almost endless list of things i SHOULD be concerned about-There are people who drink and drive, food companies pumping uneccessary chemicals into my food, global warming! We all do things which contribute to negative concequences to those around us (driving to the corner shop round the corner= pollution=global warming). It's easy to get on your soap box and preach to other people, but sometimes i feel that moral panics end up restricting the freedom of choice of the individual. It will be nice to take my daughter out without her breathing in large amounts of smoke- Don't get me wrong, but as with most things my stand on smoking is this... What you do in your home (or allow to be done in your home) is your business. i have a lot of friends and relatives who smoke and to be honest- i'm glad they do half the time! there are a lot of people who wouldn't be much fun if they didn't have a stress relieving fag, or a stop the nerves fag, if that's your way of dealing with things then so be it. As long as people are informed of the concequences of thier actions, i think they should have the right to decide whether it is the right thing for them.

'Bad field trip'

As a chocoholic i would suggest that any activity which incorporates large amounts of chocolate is the obvious choice- but in all honesty, i'm game to go any where! Any excuse to swap a lecture for a bit of fun sounds good to me. I'm loving this module!